By: Erin Hanson

You are not your age,

Nor the size of clothes you wear,

You are not a weight,

Or the color of your hair.

You are not your name,

Or the dimples in your cheeks,

You are all the books you read,

And all the words you speak,

You are your croaky morning voice,

And the smiles you try to hide,

You’re the sweetness in your laughter,

And every tear you’ve cried,

You are the songs you sing so loudly,

When you know you’re all alone,

You’re the places that you’ve been to,

And the one that you call home,

You’re the things that you believe in,

And the people that you love,

You’re the photos in your bedroom,

And the future you dream of,

You’re made of so much beauty,

But it seems that you forgot,

When you decided that you were defined,

By all the things you’re not.



Do not judge yourself on what you are not.

If you wish to change an aspect of life that is completely possible, but it takes work and time – hard work and a lot of time.

We hear it daily in our own heads – I want to be thinner, I want to be prettier, I want to be stronger, I want to be smarter. I want to be in love, I want to get that job, I want more money.

I am not here to tell you that those things are not possible, because they are. Yet, by judging ourselves by what we are not puts poison in to a mind that causes all will from accomplishing such change to evaporate. The drive to push that change forward will be crushed by the judgements in which you place upon yourself, or the judgements that you listen to from others.

There is no rule in the world that says you need to deal with negative people in your circles in life. Those that might tell you that you are not good enough to accomplish all that you wish for your life. These circles in life may come from friends, family, co-workers, lovers. They may even be through the internet ads, television, Facebook, etc. Even your own mind will hold you prisoner if you are not careful. Yet, know this, your mind is the most powerful tool you have, but it needs training to get you to where you wish to be.

Your mind can push you to the dreams in which you seek, but first you must drive out the negativity in which always seems to pop up at the worst possible time.

Kick the trash to the curb! Kick the Bullshit out of your life!

All those thoughts – I’m fat, I’m not good enough, I can’t do it, I’m not strong enough, I can’t, I can’t, I can’t – it’s all crap!

You can!

You can!

You can!

I have said it before and I will say it again – you were placed on this Earth to be great! Did you hear that? TO BE GREAT!

Stop defining yourself by what you are not and start looking at yourself for how amazing you are!

Fuck all the rest!

Every person has conquered battles in their lives – take those battles that you have survived through and come to realize that you are FUCKING AMAZING!

One foot in front of the other will get you to your goal. We all want instant gratification, but this is not one of those times in which you can accomplish all that you need to by taking short cuts.

You must work at silencing those negative thoughts – those moments where you define yourself by what you are not.

Always move forward, no matter how small the step may be – keep your mind surrounded by who you are, what you have accomplished, the battles you have lived through.

You’ve got this – do not doubt yourself!


Fight! Do not go quietly in to that good night!

For you are Not a Porcelain Doll

You are a conqueror, one this is ready to take your life back for eternity!



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